I used to think leadership was about being the smartest person in the room. I thought my job was to have all the answers.

Then I started running a remote team, and I realized I had no idea what was happening half the time. I couldn’t “see” the work. I had to trust the people.

Here are 3 lessons I learned the hard way.

1. Context > Control

In a remote setting, you cannot control people. You can only set the Context.

  • Bad Leader: “Move this logo 3 pixels to the left.” (Control)
  • Good Leader: “Our goal for this landing page is to increase trust for elderly users.” (Context)

When you give Context, your team surprises you with solutions better than you could have imagined.

2. Check on the Person, Not the Task

When I get on a call, I force myself not to ask “Is the report done?” first. I ask: “How are you feeling? How is the family?” In a remote world, loneliness is the enemy. If your team feels like they are just “resources” in a cloud, they will burn out. You have to be a Chief Empathy Officer.

3. Praise Publicly, Correct Privately

This is an old rule, but in Slack, it is critical. If you criticize someone in a public channel, it feels like a public shaming. It stays there forever. Always give critical feedback in a 1-on-1 video call. But when someone wins? Blast it in the #general channel with 50 fire emojis.

Conclusion

Leadership is not a title. It is a service. Your job is to remove rocks from the road so your team can drive the car.